The G-spot most easily is reached with a curved toy or a partner's fingers bent toward the belly and moved in a "come here" motion. It also can be stimulated during intercourse in doggy-style-like positions, with the upper body slightly raised (for example, hands supported on the wall). According to sexologist Dr. Carol Queen, "There are two separate genital nerve pathways to the brain [that] carry sensation and orgasmic response. One is clitoral (or penile); the other is vaginal (or prostatic)."
The pelvic nerve (the prostatic pathway) is the route by which stimulation to the urethral sponge travels. It also involves the uterus and the anterior area of the PC muscles. This explains why many women find that firm, repetitive pressure to the aroused G-spot creates a unique, pleasurable sensation resulting in an orgasm that is distinctly different from those occurring with clitoral stimulation alone-and, additionally, why sensations resulting from rhythmic thrusting on the G-spot differ from those provided by deeper vaginal penetration or clit stimulation.
When a woman is aroused, her G-spot swells with blood and fluid, causing the area to become more plump. This engorgement allows the sponge to push into the vaginal canal, causing the G-spot area of the vaginal wall to stand out and become easier to identify.
Learning the ABGs
Women who hunt for their spot when un-aroused tend to come up empty handed; those who get turned on may be stymied by an exasperating need to urinate, not to mention the fear of actually peeing. Some women ejaculate clear fluid when they have a G-spot orgasm, which is a normal part of sexual response; however, the sensation can be distressingly similar to the need to urinate.
Consider also the fact that there are many myths surrounding the G-spot, everything up to and including that it actually doesn't exist-and it's no wonder many women are confused and lack the knowledge to enjoy their G-spots fully. As a retailer, you're in a great position to help your customers overcome these obstacles and achieve great orgasms!
Now how do you find it?
Get turned on. Use a vibrator, watch porn, read erotica, fantasize-do whatever works to ratchet up arousal before spelunking for the G.
Strengthen vaginal muscles through Kegel exercises. This will increase a woman's awareness of her sexual response and can increase the pleasure of G-spot stimulation. To do a simple Kegel exercise, squeeze the pelvic muscles as if trying to stop an imaginary flow of urine. Repeat and increase reps over time as muscles become stronger. Use of a Kegel exerciser such as the Energie (Natural Contours) can increase effectiveness.
Use curved toys or curved fingers. Try a toy with a broad blunt head such as the Galaxy G (Vixen Creations) or Danni's E-glass Wand (Topco). Light touch won't do much, but try a variety of rhythms and pressures. Clitoral stimulation can raise the pitch of arousal and make the G more responsive.
Urinate before launching G exploration. If the need to urinate increases as orgasm approaches, give in, relax, and go with the flow.
Position the partner. Fingers are more effective than the penis at reaching the G-spot. Curved dildos are great, but if working with the real thing, utilize sex positions that raise the receptive woman's body and optimize the angle of penetration.
Take the backdoor. The perineum is thin and flexible, allowing sensations from anal play to penetrate the G-spot. As with all anal play, use lube, keep toy edges smooth, and make sure all toys have a wide enough base to prevent them from slipping inside.
Try a vibe. While some women experience orgasms from G-spot stimulation through penetration alone, many women need external clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.
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